Reckless Words

Proverbs 12:18
Reckless words pierce like a sword,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

A friend of mines is going through a rough patch in her marriage right now which really saddens me. She is a beautiful woman, with a servan't spirit, booming business and the cutest kids you'll ever meet. On the outside, she's the type of gal that many could and probably do envy. But on the inside she's torn to pieces over her husband. He doesn't particularly feel like there is an issue because he's not cheating, he provides and he spends time with the kids. The problem is, however, that despite the great package he appears to be, the recklessness of his words is tearing his wife apart emotionally, when his tongue is where she should be able to seek refuge.

Have you ever said something that you knew was terribly wrong as soon as the words left your lips? Have you ever felt the sting of someone saying something to you that just crushed your spirits? Even if it were in the heat of an argument, once the apologies were professed and the truces called, someone is still carrying the pain of something that was said and can never be taken back.

Let's take a stand today to choose our words wisely in all of our relationships. We shouldn't always be worried about what we need to say. . . . sometimes whats more important is how the person we're talking to will be affected by it.

My friend is seriously considering leaving a seemingly great marriage because her husband just doesn't recognize that the words he chooses and the tone, style and attitude with which he speaks is killing the spirit of his vivacious wife. This proverb alone, if heeded to, could save a marriage.

Seek Wisdom, Find Wealth & Be Blessed

A Wife's Wisdom

Proverbs 31:26
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

Sermons that touch on the wife of noble character hardly ever mention the fact that she speaks with wisdom. I guess considering all the other awesome stuff she's accomplished throughout verses 1-25, its assumed that she is quite a wise woman. I enjoy this particular verse, however, because there's no assumption necessary. A wise wife speaks with wisdom. Considering the challenges which present themselves in marriage, that makes a world of sense. Knowing when, where and how to speak to your husband can make or break a marriage.

Through some serious trial and error I've learned a lot about the communication style that keeps the peace in my household. I've figured out what tone to speak to my husband in when there's a problem, what time of day is best to approach him, etc. I consider being aware of these little things a big help in my marriage and I'm sure my husband would say the same.

Fellow wives, there's nothing wrong with disagreeing or persuading our husbands to see things our way (hint, hint)! Using wisdom, however, teaches us how to apply what we know about our husbands likes and dislikes in order to ensure a favorable outcome for everyone. Many of us (wives) always feel like we have the right answer to family concerns or problems, but if we don't communicate it in a way that our husband can receive it positively, then we're not using wisdom! We're probably just being that nagging wife spoken about earlier in the book of Proverbs.

Let's Speak Wisdom & Find Favor with our Spouses today!
Be Blessed.